A properly constructed apology can save a relationship or even a career. The flip side, however, can be worse than if you never apologized in the first place. Kevin Spacey, a stranger to controversy, failed on his first attempt. But with my commentary and notes, if he reads it and takes it to heart, he’ll be better prepared for apologizing when the next set of accusations role in.
I have a lot of respect and admiration for Anthony Rapp as an actor.
Establish that your respect for him hinges upon his acting and not something more sincere. You, Kevin Spacey, an A-list celebrity, admires a bit part actor. Very believable.
I’m beyond horrified to hear his story. I honestly do not remember the encounter, it would have been over 30 years ago.
As a human being you should be able to identify whether or not you would be capable of having sex with a minor. If you can’t, err on the side of caution. Put your skillset to use and act like a good person. I mean how many of us can be certain that we didn’t sexually assault a minor 30 years ago? I can’t even remember what I had for lunch yesterday.
But if I did behave then as he describes. I owe him the sincerest apology for what would have been deeply inappropriate drunken behavior, and I am sorry for the feelings he describes having carried with him all these years.
Apologizing is always good when you’ve done something wrong. Apologizing for something you claim you may or may not have done doesn’t seem genuine. The last celebrity who tried such a tactic was OJ Simpson with his book, IF I DID IT. Apologizing to someone for plying them with booze because your end goal was sodomy with a minor is also ill advised. Although pricey, Edible Arrangements are always a hit.
It’s good to remind the reader that you were drunk at the time, but in this case, it is unneeded. Seducing a minor is always inappropriate behavior. The phrasing is also subpar. It leaves open the implication that the reason it was “inappropriate” was due to you being drunk, as if you broke the code of etiquette amongst pedophiles. Be better.
Try not to sound like a robot, The last bit about “the feelings he described” reminds me of the scene in T2 where John explains to the Terminator why people cry.
This story has encouraged me to address other things about my life.
We all have a “rock bottom” story where we become introspective. Using an alleged sexual assault that you are being accused of may not be appropriate given the circumstances. It should also be noted that when being accused of sexual assault you shouldn’t mention how you’ve found a silver lining to the situation.
I know that there are stories out there about me and that some have been fueled by the fact that I have been so protective of my privacy.
This is good. Make sure the reader understands that you’re a victim. After all, I would like to think we can live in a world where someone can try and seduce a child and not have to worry about it appearing in the news. I guess we’re just dreamers.
As the closest to me know, in my life I have had relationships with both men and women. I have loved and had romantic encounters with men throughout my life, and I choose now to live as a gay man.
This is brave. Normally you’d want the LGBTQ crowd on your side, but you’ve taken a different route. Once and for all we now know that being gay is a choice. In hind sight though, maybe save your coming out moment for an interview with Ellen.
I want to deal with this honestly and openly and that starts with examining my own behavior.
Admittedly we had a few missteps in this apology, but the closer is the most important. Just like that old adage states, it’s not how you start the race, but how you finish it. Be specific. Is it the alleged sexual assault or your choice to now live as a gay man that you will “deal with”? Furthermore, don’t bring the focus back to your own behavior. What are you examining? In terms of how its been framed, you’re either examining your behavior as a gay man or alleged pedophiliac behavior.
What are the odds of the next story being that Kevin Spacey was molested as a child and he is addicted to sex and pornography?